What you focus on grows...

What you focus on grows–but I mean really.

Where you choose to put your attention is an incredibly valuable decision that I think we too much of the time let be decided subconsciously or on autopilot for us and for our lives. The unfortunate part is that the end result of navigating life this way isn’t always (or even usually) helpful, growth-ful, or productive.

Navigating our lives this way is much more reactive than autonomous, intentional, and proactive. This can cause us to get stuck in repetitive and unfruitful cycles, while being frustrated at the seemingly out-of-our-control results, without even realizing it.

What are you focusing on? What do you think about? Are you a serial daydreamer? Why?

What do you habitually spend time doing? What does your life really look like if we were to zoom out from a bird’s eye view and just observe it over say the course of a week or month? Are you intentionally choosing to live this way or are you just going through the motions and wishing for more or better?

Where do you spend the majority of your time? What are you routinely ingesting or taking in (especially pertaining to media)?

What story are you telling yourself about your life, why you are the way you are, why you do what you do, and why your life is the way that it is to you?

What are your goals? Are you focused on achieving something or some circumstance? Are you focused on avoiding something or some circumstance?

Are you constantly dwelling on the past or even the future? Is your mind constantly turning over and over with down-the-rabbit-hole thoughts? What are those thoughts about? Is there anything you’re still holding onto that’s keeping you stuck or stagnant?

These may be some great questions for you to journal about to see where your focus is–especially as we launch into another year. If you don’t want 2022 to be a repeat of things, circumstances, and feelings you’ve felt before, now is the time to start getting clear on where your focus is now, how that’s affecting your life, where you actually want that focus to be, and how to actually get there.

Here’s to doing things differently when you truly want things to be different!

Marie MFT