Self Sabotage: Why?

“Why do I keep doing this?”

“What’s wrong with me?

“Why am I in my own way?”

Today’s topic is a touchy one. Self sabotage.

It’s like some kind of hidden emergency break that we employ on ourselves, our dreams, our goals, our relationships. Usually, it’s habitual. We might fail to be consistent with everything else–except our ability to self sabotage.

To self sabotage is to stand in your own way, to trip your own self up, to throw the wrench all by yourself into all of your perfectly crafted plans and ideas. Everything seems to be going great; you’ve got everything all mapped out and you feel like you’re clear on what you need/want to do–then, you simply don’t do it.

You could literally be thinking of what you want or need to do, have the opportunity right in front of you to do it–and still, you don’t do it. Why?

For the sake of time, I’m going to give you one main reason why so many people self sabotage their own desires, goals, success, and (ultimately) happiness:

You self sabotage because you have victimized yourself.

How do I know? I know because that’s been me–time and time again. I realized that when I self sabotaged, I ultimately felt that I didn’t have true power over my situation. When we don’t feel we really have the power, we intuitively infer that someone or something else does–and that they or it are not willing/going to give us what we want or need.

Our brains subconsciously weigh the potential costs and benefits of continuing despite our feelings and determine that it’s not worth the risk, so we stall or quit.

The problem is, self sabotage is a dream-killer. It’s the thief of productivity, joy, and fulfillment.

It breeds self destruction, self hatred, resentment, depression, and regret.

Internally, I felt like such a failure and like there was just something wrong with me. I was so frustrated that I couldn’t be consistent, and I resented the fact that at the end of the day it was me that kept me stalled and not where I wanted to be in my life.

When I learned how to beat self sabotage, I was so excited I had to share it with the women I work with as a Coach. If you want to figure out how to break the cycle of self sabotage, so you can finally experience the progress and growth you need, I will teach you how. It’s life-changing.

Have you struggled with self sabotage? Comment below.

Marie